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06 December 2009 @ 01:02 am
RL: Christmas budgets + saving money.  
So I'm out and about, going into stores and shopping for specific gifts for people, when I unconsciously head into the Christmas sections where there are shelves and shelves of decorations, ornaments, and everything and all things Christmas. I can spend like fifteen to twenty minutes, even a half an hour, searching in just that area alone because my mind is going OMG I WANT THIS AND THIS AND THIS, JUST GIMME EVERYTHING ON THESE DAMN SHELVES! EVERYTHING IS SO GLITTERY AND GORGEOUS! ME WANTS IT ALL!

But at the same time, I'm restraining myself because I am on a budget which I created for myself, since my credit card bill is going to be suffering already. I'm also saving up my money for the possibility of going to LA Con next year.

It's just...really hard. I have someting most will refer to as "retail therapy", or basically something like a shopping addiction. It doesn't happen all the time, but whenever I'm out and about buying something of necessity, I have this impulsive urge to just buy something that I see and like, sometimes just for the hell of buying it. But in this economy and with limited jobs out there these days, spending money frivolously would be a huge mistake, and I know this. It's just hard because I keep contemplating, calculating the numbers in my head, going over and over "well, if I buy this now I can get that some other time..." and all of that.

Of course, this is the curse of the holidays and its commercialism. There's so much advertisement of pretty things that I want to get others and for myself, but know I can't afford. It's slightly disheartening.

I don't know, maybe I'm just weird.
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Ariel: dr. who-jack/ten-hugfestlodessa on December 6th, 2009 08:16 pm (UTC)
*hugs* It's not just you.

We are conditioned as a society to be consumers. Purchasing ends up being the ultimate expression of power and therefore addictive. The boyfriend and I both struggle with this. He leaks money through the continual need to purchase a little something, whereas I am a binger (I will be really good for weeks or months and then buy something super expensive).
Renée: Justin/Alex. Hugs.rogueslayer452 on December 7th, 2009 02:17 am (UTC)
We are a consumer-based society, that is very true. I mean, Black Friday anyone? I read that this year ranked higher than previous years in people sending their money, which in this economy you'd think it'd be reduced. But apparently there is no stopping people when it comes to holiday shopping.

I have my mother to thank for thinking twice about spending more than I should. The term "clearance" is one of her favorite words and she's instilled me with it quite a bit, and although I do tend to kind of splurge here and there I have her voice in the back of my head going "are you sure you need that now?" Because believe it or not, no matter what people say it might just as well cost less later than if you buy it now, letting all that money go to waste.
Ariel: dollhouse-adellelodessa on December 23rd, 2009 06:41 pm (UTC)
I read that this year ranked higher than previous years in people sending their money, which in this economy you'd think it'd be reduced. But apparently there is no stopping people when it comes to holiday shopping.

People emotion shop so feeling sad and deprived probably leads people to make stupid purchases. Also pride.

My dad is the one who was thrifty (although my mom tried when we had no money). For the most part I am a good bargain shopper (Ross, Marshalls, TJ Maxx, and Crossroads all feature heavily in my wardrobe building) but occasionally I just want that feeling of indulgence that comes with a big purchase (although I have gotten better about actually returning things I have guilt about).

I am really proud of myself so far this season though, I have only gone over budget on one gift (my maternal grandmother) and even with that I am under budget overall.

Edited at 2009-12-23 06:42 pm (UTC)
Tracy: Dean/Cas Biteablealexwhitman25 on December 6th, 2009 08:54 pm (UTC)
Christmas is cursed with so many shiny, pretty things. And if you are a Christmas decoration junkie, it's like walking into battle everytime you enter a store. I'm the same way. STAY STRONG BB, stay strong!
Renée: Castiel. Adorkable.rogueslayer452 on December 6th, 2009 10:52 pm (UTC)
I'm trying to bb, I'm trying to. *clings*
pretty much the nostalgia chick: God give me gracevikki on December 6th, 2009 11:00 pm (UTC)
If you can resist making the impulse buy you're already doing very well. I have two friends: one of them is like you, an impulse buyer who can control her habits, and she's in far better financial shape than me. The other has no control over her urges and she is constantly out of money for basic necessities like food.

in other words, good for you! You're doing fine. *hugs*
Renée: SPN. Castiel.rogueslayer452 on December 6th, 2009 11:56 pm (UTC)
Thank you! It's a constant struggle though, because part of my brain is all "ME WANTS THIS! ME WANTS THAT! GIMME GIMME!" but then the rational part of my brain is all, no, those can wait you have to think about your monies before you spend. I have those internal battles with my conscience constantly, especially around this time of the year.

I just have to think about the money, since I am saving money I have to think about why I'm saving it and what it's going to be for in the future and which is more likely to be helpful.
wickedvirtue on December 7th, 2009 04:01 am (UTC)
Nah, man, I hear you. I didn't even budget for Christmas, my first bonus is already gone, and yet... 150 crayons for $10? Why, YES, I will buy that even though I completely don't need it! Retail therapy is so hard to overcome during this season!

Stay strong!
Renée: Castiel. Guardian angel.rogueslayer452 on December 7th, 2009 04:34 am (UTC)
It really is tough, because this is my favorite holiday and my favorite time of the year, and with all these sales they're having? OMG it's like they're trying to kill me! D:

-: Fandom | Spn | chuckamechiro on December 7th, 2009 06:08 am (UTC)
Oh, do I get you. I'm awful at restraining myself from buying anything (especially books and hats), and it's worse in this season when everything seems so shiny and pretty.

Hang in there, bb! It will be worth it :)
Renée: Hyori Lee.rogueslayer452 on December 7th, 2009 08:22 am (UTC)
For me it's clothes. I am a clothes junkie like you wouldn't believe, and the one thing that makes me even more addicted to shopping for clothes? Are sales for winter fashions, omg. I can barely resist sometimes when I'm in that mood for indulging on my impulses. But budgets these days, I have to resist those temptations. Even if it's hard to do. *whimpers*

I'm staying strong, I am.