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12 March 2016 @ 01:13 pm
March Question Meme: Day Twelve  
Asked by thegirlonfire:

What are your pet peeves?

I've thought about this for a while, and rather than giving the usual answers such as "bad drivers" and the like I'm going to be discussing some recent pet peeves that have been bothering me for a while. I'm limiting myself to at least three items, just to be on the safe side. I have a lot of pet peeves, but these are just a few things on my mind.

01. When people look down upon and/or make fun of the younger generation. I've noticed this in a lot of different circles, and while this isn't necessarily a new concept with generation gaps, I'm finding a disturbing trend that even those my age, in their late twenties, mocking or thinking it's alright to dislike the younger generation for whatever it is they are liking now. Whether it's certain books or things in pop culture, certain musical artists, being technologically savvy with social media and online, etc. I understand that with every generation there will be the older generation in the state of "what are the kids into nowadays" with either fascination or utter confusion, but sometimes it can become quite insulting and downright vicious. You know, the whole "well, back in my day..." kind of mindset. Even those from my own generation are starting to have that attitude even though it wasn't too long ago we were that age, and I think it's ridiculous. If you didn't like it being done to you, don't do it to others.

02. People thinking technology is ~ruining society. Kind of the same vein as my first point above, when people, usually the older generations, think that technology is ruining human interaction and therefore is the pinnacle of everything that is wrong with the world, especially everything that is wrong with the younger generation. Whether it's taking selfies or being on their phones or making YouTube videos or playing video games or just being on the Internet in general, someone somewhere will be shaking their fist at the sky yelling at a cloud about how technology is ruining the decency of humanity. Never mind how the advancements of technology has made things easier for people to connect with others, how we can research things faster with just the tips of our fingers, how it has kept so many informed and educated about current events happening around the world, how it has literally saved lives. Just like with anything else in the world, there are good and bad qualities attached to it depending on how it's being used. Instead of reminiscing about "the good old days" when things were harder (and therefore somehow automatically more "authentic"), relish in how times are changing and, with technology, making things better for people all around the world. Just because you don't understand how to use it (or to a lesser extent, can't keep up with it), doesn't mean it isn't beneficial to someone else.

03. "Someone had way too much time on their hands." Ever heard this phrase uttered by someone? It's usually targeted towards someone who did something that is seen as a hobby or something that isn't of the "norm" in terms of projects, and is often used in a dismissive manner. As someone who is among fandom, I can imagine there are non-fandom people who probably think this way in regards to fanwork in general, and I don't particularly like it. It's said in a way of disregarding the person and what they do, as an off-handed way of saying that what they're doing is pointless or not worth their time, and it doesn't sit well with me. Even if they are spending a lot of time on a particular thing, if it isn't harming anyone, what is the problem?
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Julie: ATLA ★ embitteredragnarok_08 on March 12th, 2016 11:40 pm (UTC)
Ugh those pet peeves really drive me up the wall too DX
night_owl_9: Juliet - iris petalsnight_owl_9 on March 13th, 2016 12:09 am (UTC)
I have these pet peeves too! They're the worst.

Even if they are spending a lot of time on a particular thing, if it isn't harming anyone, what is the problem? - Right? What's the harm in that?
americana exotica: Rileyinterchanges on March 13th, 2016 04:09 am (UTC)
Every time someone says technology is ruining society I want to scream. Yes there are bad parts about it, but like everything there's many good parts too.
Renée: Claire. No ordinary girl.rogueslayer452 on March 13th, 2016 09:23 am (UTC)
The amount of judgment and assumptions some have in regards to technology is beyond ridiculous. I especially hate it when suddenly that means this generation is "narcissistic" because of it, and I'm just like ??? It's as though they've stopped being objective about the changes the future is making and think that anything technology-based is just promoting a generation of "lazy narcissists" and thus ruining humanity as we know it, and I cannot roll my eyes harder at that.
Revyallodole on March 13th, 2016 08:23 am (UTC)
Are you me? Because every single one of these. Just.. so much unnecessary shit people get up to. Baby-boomers make fun of us millennials. We make fun of people younger than us. Like, what the hell.
Renée: Caprica. Zoe Graystone.rogueslayer452 on March 13th, 2016 09:13 am (UTC)
It's like once people get older they somehow automatically think they're better and belittle the younger generations, as if they had forgotten what it was like to be that age too. I mean it happens at all stages, but it gets really nasty when grown adults are making fun of kids and teens for simply, you know, living in their era and enjoying the things they do. It's a vicious cycle and I honestly don't understand it and wish it would stop.
DJ Jazzy Ddavesmusictank on March 13th, 2016 10:21 am (UTC)
Concurred - pet peeves too get me awry.

Edited at 2016-03-13 10:21 am (UTC)
sherrilinasherrilina on March 13th, 2016 05:22 pm (UTC)
As someone who is among fandom, I can imagine there are non-fandom people who probably think this way in regards to fanwork in general, and I don't particularly like it.

Particularly when you know there are a lot of people who spend just as much time on like, fantasy sports or talking about/following sports, but that is culturally considered to be okay/normal, even though it's no different than crafting or other kinds of creative hobbies.
Renée: Haven. Audrey Parker.rogueslayer452 on March 14th, 2016 07:35 pm (UTC)
Precisely, it's such a hypocritical double-standard. Even though geek/nerd and fandom culture has gradually become more and more accepted in pop culture over the years, there is still that stigma attached. Sadly, sports will always be seen as automatically socially and culturally accepted, and anything in the performing arts be seen as less favorable, and therefore anyone who spends their time on anything related to that as a hobby will be seen as "pointlessly wasting" their time. :/

Edited at 2016-03-14 07:36 pm (UTC)
goldenusagigoldenusagi on March 13th, 2016 10:47 pm (UTC)
I haaaaate the "Someone had way too much time on their hands" thing.
Renée: BSG. Sharon Valerii.rogueslayer452 on March 14th, 2016 07:39 pm (UTC)
I don't think many understand how passive aggressive that statement truly is, or how they can make someone feel less than adequate when their interests or project is seen as wasting time. Like, you don't have to understand why a person does what they do, but it obviously matters to them so don't put them down for it, even if it's made in playful jest.
dhampyresadhampyresa on March 13th, 2016 11:51 pm (UTC)
if they are spending a lot of time on a particular thing

Renéerogueslayer452 on March 14th, 2016 07:43 pm (UTC)
EXACTLY! Like, it's not that hard of a concept to grasp. I do think it's a saying that most don't realize is dismissive, but should probably stop and think why they're making such a comment in the first place.
sentry mode activated: firefly | i aim to misbehaveellipsisms on March 14th, 2016 05:12 am (UTC)
That last thing is just so passive aggressive. It's annoying af when people say that because it's just like :| "Yeah, I have free time sometimes and that's what I want to do with it, go fuck yourself." lol.
Meredith: Shawn and Juliet - kissxfirefly9x on March 14th, 2016 06:26 am (UTC)
1. Yeah, that irks me too. I had a "family" Christmas thing awhile back that my stepmum invited randoms to (ugh she sucks; she just wanted to get us out of the way so grouped us in with people we don't know), one of whom started in on my barely teenaged half-sister about her music tastes, and tried to get everyone else onboard with him that her taste sucked. No one defended her or said he was way out of line. When he got to me, I said I hadn't heard that band before but couldn't see anything wrong with it. (This same guy thought it was funny to be a jerk about my snake phobia, after it was brought up he has snakes and someone mentioned I have a massive fear of them. I left the room.)

2. Yup. People are doing the ruining, not tech (or whatever else is "in" at whatever point). It's always people.

3. It's messed up, like... who cares how someone else spends their free time? That's THEIR free time to do with what they want. And what does anyone get out of being dismissive of that kind of thing anyway?

/rant :D
Renée: BSG. Natalie is not pleased.rogueslayer452 on March 15th, 2016 06:04 pm (UTC)
Ugh, that is completely disrespectful and rude. In general, I'm quite protective of young girls and their interests since I remember when I was that age and finding something I enjoyed but having people laugh or mock me (which unfortunately had me secluded a lot of the time) so anyone who tries to look down on young girls for the things they like I'm just like, yo, back the fuck off. Let them be.

And really, what is wrong with people, especially grown adults, who think it's okay to judge or mock someone for what they may like or make light of someone's phobia? What's worse is how they hand wave it like it's nothing, or think you're being too "sensitive", and that just ticks me off the most.
Meredith: Henry - sanctuaryxfirefly9x on March 15th, 2016 06:06 pm (UTC)
It really is. I'm amazed that people just... let that sort of thing happen, stand there and watch like it's okay. It's messed up.

Yeah. "Too sensitive". I'm pretty sure that's what I got. A laugh because I left (though my reason for leaving was that my half-sister was elsewhere at that point, and I was there to see her and my half-bro, not this random jerk I'd never met before).
glitter is blue: stock - red flowerglitterisblue on March 15th, 2016 01:35 am (UTC)
interesting pet peeves!!

mine... which irks me no end... is motorcycle riders and scooter riders who ride with NO Protection... if I see you riding with a t-shirt/singlet and shorts I have no respect for you... if you can't be bothered wearing proper leathers, you should not be allowed on a bike, its just stupid.
Renéerogueslayer452 on March 15th, 2016 06:08 pm (UTC)
Once I saw someone on a motorcycle without a helmet, and it just baffles me that people would be not concerned about their own safety.
i'm on a website where people fuck fruit: GrossePointeBlankgeckoholic on March 15th, 2016 04:54 pm (UTC)
Argh yes, I agree with all of these. :/